Changing a care or contact arrangement
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An arrangement can be adjusted if the parents agree. If that is not possible, the court can be asked to change the existing arrangement.
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Describe what has changed
Explain factually which circumstances have changed since the previous agreement or decision. Consider school hours, working hours, the child's age and needs, distance or structural problems during handovers.
Make a complete proposal
State days and times, holidays, public holidays, pick-up and drop-off, costs and a review moment. Show how the proposal supports stability, predictability and contact with both parents.
If consultation does not work
Mediation or facilitated consultation may help. A lawyer is required for court proceedings about care or contact. The court assesses what is feasible in the child's best interests.
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Current written arrangement
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Record what happened, when, the response and where to find the letter, message or photo. Mark uncertain dates.
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For each event, note the date, what happened and where the evidence is kept. Example: 3 October — letter received — correspondence folder.
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After your conversation
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- Current written arrangement
- Overview of actual implementation
- Specific changed circumstances
- New weekly and holiday schedule
- Transport and travel costs
- Responses and alternatives from both parents
Frequently asked questions
Can I temporarily stop the arrangement myself?
Do not do so without an acute safety reason and professional advice. Unilaterally failing to comply may escalate matters and work against you legally.
Can an oral agreement be changed?
Yes, but record new arrangements in writing to prevent evidentiary problems.