Can I move with my child without permission?
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Do not move in anticipation of permission. Creating a fait accompli may harm your position and lead to a request to move back.
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If you share parental authority, a move that affects the child's life and contact cannot be decided unilaterally. If consent is refused, substitute consent from the court may be required.
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Make the necessity specific
Substantiate why the move is necessary, how it has been prepared and which alternatives have been considered. Work, housing, support network and financial consequences may be relevant, but must be explained with evidence.
Protect contact with the other parent
Make a workable proposal for care days, pick-up and drop-off, travel costs, holidays and digital contact. Also describe the child's school, childcare and social network.
Substitute consent
If the other parent with parental authority refuses, the court can weigh all interests. A lawyer is required for the application. The outcome depends strongly on distance, necessity, preparation and consequences for the child.
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- Who has parental authority
- Reason and necessity for the move
- New home, school and childcare
- Distance and travel time
- New care and transport arrangement
- Allocation of travel costs
- Less intrusive alternatives
Frequently asked questions
Can I move myself without the child?
Your own move is different, but its consequences for the care arrangement and the child may still require new arrangements.
Is the child's best interest always decisive?
The child's best interest is central, but the court weighs all circumstances and interests together.